Recently, I have taken it upon myself to develop my social skills by networking with people around me. Having been an introvert for as long as I can remember, this has been a tremendously difficult undertaking but one that I thought necessary in order to dialectically improve myself. I have spent the past few years developing my internal knowledge to the extent that I can spark up and maintain a conversation for a long period of time, long enough to get to the more serious aspects of life as opposed to the mundane platitudes of everyday life. But knowledge is useless if not applied or shared, so I sought to do a little of both.
Networking can bring out the best in people.
Firstly, I must mention an acquaintance of mine who I just met a week ago. My first impression of him was that he was a genuinely nice and thoughtful person and I decided to enjoy an outing to his coworker’s house along with my girlfriend. While there, we engaged in the formalities of introducing ourselves to one another and then began to delve into conversation. After conversing for quite some time, I had discovered that he had this idea for an app that would facilitate the running of a small business. This intrigued me, so I began to ask him questions, especially about his business plan. He answered back by stating that he had no business plan, just the idea, to which I replied that he should write down his idea and begin to really flesh it out. He did and thanked me for the advice, then we agreed that I would help him in the future. The birth of this new relationship made me think about how necessary it is to share your ideas and seek help where your knowledge may be deficient in order to reach your goals more efficiently, so I decided to go further since I had a few ideas of my own.
Now I would like to speak about a conversation I had with someone that I’ve known for a long period of time, but with who I have not had the chance to engage in serious discussion. We both come from the same hometown and knew early on we were kindred spirits in some respects. However, he recently invited me to meet with him and a few friends. The conversation shifted to the topic of a single question you could ask anyone in order to compel them to objectively think about their position in the world, in the universe, and what they were doing about making themselves and the world a better place. This piqued my curiosity, and I asked him what he considered a good question. He said he wasn’t sure yet, as he had a few questions. “What is it that you want out of life?” “Why are you here?” “What is your ultimate goal?”
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Then I asked him, “Why aren’t we helping each other out more to realize our goals?” He knew the answer right away: because most people are selfish and don’t want to share if they feel they may be deprived of some momentary pleasure. I replied that I had an idea that I wanted help on, a project that I am intent on completing in my hometown. He asked what it was, and I told that I wanted to create a structure that would sustainably grow enough food for an entire desert community without the use of pesticides, herbicides, or any chemicals, bar maybe fertilizer. It would be a community center of agriculture where everyone could partake of the fruits of the earth while simultaneously learning about the production of food. A perfect setting for more networking. My original idea was that everyone would sign up to this community garden through a sort of social contract, in which each member of the cooperative would pledge a bit of their time to help maintain the garden in return for enough food for their respective families. Upon hearing this, my friend immediately responded by enthusiastically volunteering to help the project in any manner possible.
Use networking to show others the benefits of Meritocracy.
The reason I am saying all this is simple: in this world of social media and fragmentation, we have forgotten that we can reach out to people in real ways, for real ideas and projects. Most people are extremely bored with their lives and they crave some meaning and a way to contribute through their latent creativity. However, because most people stick to the superficial interactions provided on Facebook and Instagram, most tend to allow their ideas to stagnate in their heads when that single idea could be their ticket to prosperity for themselves and their community. It is time to get over the fake and embrace the real. Meet with people face to face, develop some bonds with your community, and begin developing projects to help in any way possible. Meritocracy must spread through small, dedicated groups of individuals achieving their goals that lead to the flourishing of their communities until it gains a stronger foothold in the popular consciousness. You can spread it through networking. Until there are some solid manifestations of Meritocracy which reveal its major benefits. we must, as Meritocrats, develop our own social networks within the real world (and in conjunction with cyber land, if necessary) and begin embarking on projects to help the community in any way imaginable. The only thing stopping any of us from succeeding is the set of false limitations we set upon ourselves everyday. I’ve begun breaking my limitations; have you?
Cole Krisell writing for the Apollo Institute of Reason AIR Review©